Comments for My-Improvement.com http://my-improvement.com/blog Personal Improvement With Emphasis On Application Thu, 20 Nov 2008 22:02:04 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.1.3 Comment on The Freedom of My Four Year Old by admin http://my-improvement.com/blog/2007/06/the-freedom-of-my-four-year-old/#comment-71 admin Sun, 24 Jun 2007 14:08:56 +0000 http://my-improvement.com/blog/2007/06/the-freedom-of-my-four-year-old/#comment-71 Thanks for the story Kara. I can relate to you making the observation about your mom being embarrassed for you when you hadn't been at all. I don't do that with my son because I see that's what will cause him to become self conscious about it. When we were sitting there at the church I only smiled and admired the state of 'non caring' he was in. I wasn't embarrassed at all. Thanks for the story Kara. I can relate to you making the observation about your mom being embarrassed for you when you hadn’t been at all. I don’t do that with my son because I see that’s what will cause him to become self conscious about it. When we were sitting there at the church I only smiled and admired the state of ‘non caring’ he was in. I wasn’t embarrassed at all.

]]> Comment on Redefining Failure by Fear of Failure - http://my-improvement.com/blog/2007/06/redefining-failure/#comment-70 Fear of Failure - Thu, 21 Jun 2007 04:01:38 +0000 http://my-improvement.com/blog/2007/06/redefining-failure/#comment-70 [...] Term Solution - Reframe your definition of failure from something that is negative to a positive experience. This method takes more work but once you [...] […] Term Solution - Reframe your definition of failure from something that is negative to a positive experience. This method takes more work but once you […]

]]> Comment on The Freedom of My Four Year Old by Kara-Leah Masina http://my-improvement.com/blog/2007/06/the-freedom-of-my-four-year-old/#comment-62 Kara-Leah Masina Sat, 16 Jun 2007 02:07:50 +0000 http://my-improvement.com/blog/2007/06/the-freedom-of-my-four-year-old/#comment-62 Beautiful illustration of the concept of judgment. We DON'T have this as children, and oh if we could hold on to that... I remember when I was 8 years old, choosing for some reason to wear a red bandana to school tied in a triangle shape over my head - kinda like a peasant woman from times gone past. I remember sitting in assembly, a red-triangled head in a sea of hair... but I don't recall any other kids saying anything to me at all about it. When I got home, my Mum saw me, and I remember her gasping in horror and saying 'I hope you didn't wear that to school like that!' It was in that moment that I'd felt like I'd done something 'wrong'... And hey, it was only a bandana! My Mum was embarrassed for me, when I hadn't been at all. What intrigues me about this memory though is WHY I wanted to wear that thing... Much joy, KL Beautiful illustration of the concept of judgment. We DON’T have this as children, and oh if we could hold on to that…

I remember when I was 8 years old, choosing for some reason to wear a red bandana to school tied in a triangle shape over my head - kinda like a peasant woman from times gone past. I remember sitting in assembly, a red-triangled head in a sea of hair… but I don’t recall any other kids saying anything to me at all about it.

When I got home, my Mum saw me, and I remember her gasping in horror and saying ‘I hope you didn’t wear that to school like that!’

It was in that moment that I’d felt like I’d done something ‘wrong’…

And hey, it was only a bandana!

My Mum was embarrassed for me, when I hadn’t been at all.

What intrigues me about this memory though is WHY I wanted to wear that thing…

Much joy,
KL

]]> Comment on The Squeek Of A Mouse by Simple Is Best - http://my-improvement.com/blog/2007/05/the-squeek-of-a-mouse/#comment-39 Simple Is Best - Fri, 25 May 2007 04:51:05 +0000 http://my-improvement.com/blog/2007/05/the-squeek-of-a-mouse/#comment-39 [...] My-Improvement.com Personal Improvement With Emphasis On ApplicationTM « The Squeek Of A Mouse [...] […] My-Improvement.com Personal Improvement With Emphasis On ApplicationTM « The Squeek Of A Mouse […]

]]> Comment on Don’t Shoot the Messenger; Or Should You? by Ken D http://my-improvement.com/blog/2007/05/dont-shoot-the-messenger-or-should-you/#comment-21 Ken D Wed, 02 May 2007 14:40:46 +0000 http://my-improvement.com/blog/2007/05/dont-shoot-the-messenger-or-should-you/#comment-21 I think it takes a certain amount of insight and maturity to be able discern what to keep and what to throw away. It took me a long time to realize I could even take pieces and leave the rest. I can totally relate when you talk about doing something you 'know' yet still feeling like you don't know it at all. On the one hand it keeps you open to always learn, but I have the habit of taking it into a negative direction to where I won't move because I think I have nothing of value to offer. I am struggling with that right now. Thanks for visiting Christine. Your blog inspires me. I hope to get to the point where I will inspire others. I think it takes a certain amount of insight and maturity to be able discern what to keep and what to throw away. It took me a long time to realize I could even take pieces and leave the rest.

I can totally relate when you talk about doing something you ‘know’ yet still feeling like you don’t know it at all. On the one hand it keeps you open to always learn, but I have the habit of taking it into a negative direction to where I won’t move because I think I have nothing of value to offer. I am struggling with that right now.

Thanks for visiting Christine. Your blog inspires me. I hope to get to the point where I will inspire others.

]]> Comment on Don’t Shoot the Messenger; Or Should You? by Christine Kane http://my-improvement.com/blog/2007/05/dont-shoot-the-messenger-or-should-you/#comment-20 Christine Kane Tue, 01 May 2007 18:02:19 +0000 http://my-improvement.com/blog/2007/05/dont-shoot-the-messenger-or-should-you/#comment-20 I go both ways on this. I can teach songwriting workshops, and still I am so clear that I don't have a clue about songwriting. It's an utter mystery to me. (Though I've made five CD's so far.) I also think that once you master one thing, you can apply those same lessons to many things. My gauge for this is always, "How does this make me feel?" Dr. Phil makes me feel like I'm a loser, like I'm wrong or bad - pretty much every time I happen to see him on a random tv. (I don't own a tv.) So, I don't look to him for help. Boom. End of story. But you're right about taking what works for you and leaving other stuff behind. I've grown enough inside to be able to do that. I used to want everyone who coached or guided me to be perfect. Not a good strategy at all! I go both ways on this. I can teach songwriting workshops, and still I am so clear that I don’t have a clue about songwriting. It’s an utter mystery to me. (Though I’ve made five CD’s so far.) I also think that once you master one thing, you can apply those same lessons to many things. My gauge for this is always, “How does this make me feel?” Dr. Phil makes me feel like I’m a loser, like I’m wrong or bad - pretty much every time I happen to see him on a random tv. (I don’t own a tv.) So, I don’t look to him for help. Boom. End of story. But you’re right about taking what works for you and leaving other stuff behind. I’ve grown enough inside to be able to do that. I used to want everyone who coached or guided me to be perfect. Not a good strategy at all!

]]> Comment on What’s Wrong With Right Now If You Don’t Think About It? by Ken D http://my-improvement.com/blog/2007/04/whats-wrong-with-right-now-if-you-dont-think-about-it/#comment-8 Ken D Thu, 19 Apr 2007 01:00:46 +0000 http://my-improvement.com/blog/2007/04/whats-wrong-with-right-now-if-you-dont-think-about-it/#comment-8 Thanks for the comment Christine. You forced me to go to <URL>http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Grok</URL> to look up the word Grok. It was a new one for me. You are my first commenter and I want to say thanks for stopping by. I don't think much about sitting in an emotion - but that may be a typical male response; I usually try to blow it out as quickly as possible which is something I'm currently working on. I watch my 3 year old son modeling my frustration/reaction behavior and I don't want him to grow up like that. Thanks for the comment Christine. You forced me to go to http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Grok to look up the word Grok. It was a new one for me. You are my first commenter and I want to say thanks for stopping by. I don’t think much about sitting in an emotion - but that may be a typical male response; I usually try to blow it out as quickly as possible which is something I’m currently working on. I watch my 3 year old son modeling my frustration/reaction behavior and I don’t want him to grow up like that.

]]> Comment on What’s Wrong With Right Now If You Don’t Think About It? by Christine Kane http://my-improvement.com/blog/2007/04/whats-wrong-with-right-now-if-you-dont-think-about-it/#comment-7 Christine Kane Wed, 18 Apr 2007 16:41:13 +0000 http://my-improvement.com/blog/2007/04/whats-wrong-with-right-now-if-you-dont-think-about-it/#comment-7 Another way I have grown is through simply watching my emotions without attaching thoughts (or a dramatic story) to them. You've written beautifully here about a mental process and how to watch your thoughts "translate" what simply IS. For those of us who have thoughts all tangled up with our emotions too - (once that happens, it's hard to sort out which is which. Emotion/Thought gets all fouled up and that's where overwhem happens) - it helps to sit still and allow the story and thoughts to leave, and then just feel the emotion all by itself. Really just grok the energy of the pure emotion - and ultimately the emotion itself becomes neutral. Not good. Not bad. It'll diffuse and move on at that point. (I have no idea if this makes sense.) Anyway, good post! Thanks! :-) Another way I have grown is through simply watching my emotions without attaching thoughts (or a dramatic story) to them. You’ve written beautifully here about a mental process and how to watch your thoughts “translate” what simply IS. For those of us who have thoughts all tangled up with our emotions too - (once that happens, it’s hard to sort out which is which. Emotion/Thought gets all fouled up and that’s where overwhem happens) - it helps to sit still and allow the story and thoughts to leave, and then just feel the emotion all by itself. Really just grok the energy of the pure emotion - and ultimately the emotion itself becomes neutral. Not good. Not bad. It’ll diffuse and move on at that point. (I have no idea if this makes sense.) Anyway, good post! Thanks! :-)

]]> Comment on Fear of Failure by My-Improvement.com » Blog Archive » Do You Really Need Another Self Improvement Program? http://my-improvement.com/blog/2007/04/fear-of-failure/#comment-6 My-Improvement.com » Blog Archive » Do You Really Need Another Self Improvement Program? Sat, 14 Apr 2007 03:32:00 +0000 http://my-improvement.com/blog/2007/04/fear-of-failure/#comment-6 [...] My-Improvement.com Personal Development For IdiotsTM « Fear of Failure [...] […] My-Improvement.com Personal Development For IdiotsTM « Fear of Failure […]

]]> Comment on Are You A Self Help Junkie? by My-Improvement.com » Blog Archive » Do You Really Need Another Self Improvement Program? http://my-improvement.com/blog/2007/03/are-you-a-self-help-junkie/#comment-5 My-Improvement.com » Blog Archive » Do You Really Need Another Self Improvement Program? Sat, 14 Apr 2007 03:18:58 +0000 http://my-improvement.com/blog/2007/03/are-you-a-self-help-junkie/#comment-5 [...] It’s really up to the individual and circumstances you find yourself in. I’ve found a great deal of my ’searching’ was really just me stalling and procrastinating. If you determine it’s just another ruse, you may be suffering from self help junki-ism. Related ArticlesAre You A Self Help Junkie? [...] […] It’s really up to the individual and circumstances you find yourself in. I’ve found a great deal of my ’searching’ was really just me stalling and procrastinating. If you determine it’s just another ruse, you may be suffering from self help junki-ism. Related ArticlesAre You A Self Help Junkie? […]

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